How Could You?

Proverbs 19:3 People ruin their lives by their own foolishness and then are angry at the LORD.

This verse made me think of the phrase “how could you.” More than we realize, people tend to look back on their lives and mistakes and ask God how could He?

How could He let this happen? First off, know that I’m not talking about rape or abuse or cancer. There are many things that go into that bracket that I don’t understand and only God knows how He will truly use it all for His glory in the end.

But this verse is talking about the mistakes that are in our control or the things that happen that we could’ve helped.

Sex is beautiful. A man and woman of God coming together in holy matrimony and having a child is beautiful. But if you are sleeping with someone who isn’t your husband or wife then don’t blame God when the situation goes south.

Don’t blame God for the bad things in this fallen world. And don’t look at your life falling apart and blame it on God’s non-existence. It’s times to realize that it’s just you. Your choices, your mistakes, and its your time to repent.

Disobedience isn’t a God issue, it’s your issue.

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There are a lot of injustices out here. Each one is harder and harder to stomach. It’s easy to give up hope. It’s easy to surrender to anger and frustration. It’s saddening to say the least.

I often find myself simply at a loss for words. Ahmaud Arbery’s family and many others are facing life knowing that a family member is gone. The reality of a lot of these situations is that evil and hatred is the reason why.

I don’t have the words or eloquence to say anything that would provide comfort. I could never do enough to comfort anyone who is facing or has faced any type of injustice. But God can.

God has a lot to say about injustice.

Proverbs 17:15, 18:5 The LORD despises those who acquit the guilty and condemn the innocent. It is wrong for a judge to favor the guilty or condemn the innocent.

We will never know why these things happen. But what we do know is that God sees it. And whenever it happens, He doesn’t like it.

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Time: Swift Transition

Times flies. Brandon laughs at me because at least every other day, I pause and tell him how fast the time goes. You’d think I was 70 the way I constantly reflect on the time. I say all that to still ask, am I wrong?

Time really doesn’t stand still. Pretty soon all the memories we planned to make will have gone by. The forgiveness we should have extended will have expired. And what we were going to do will likely not get done.

Time will have done what it does, while we will still find ourselves planning to do. Most of the times when I reflect on time I think about what I was just doing last week on that day or last month. In my mind, I can’t believe it’s already been a week or a month or a year. How does time go by so fast?

I didn’t understand it as a kid. I just enjoyed the song. But the older I get, the truer it becomes. “Time is filled with swift transition.” Therefore we’ve got none of it to waste.

The question is, as days go by, am I transitioning to someone better or just along for the ride? For the time being, what am I focused on being? Think about that while you have the time.

Psalm 90:12 Teach us to make the most of our time that we may grow in wisdom.

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At Last!

“At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” – Genesis 2:23

And Adam exclaimed. Exclaimed. I like that word. Adam was excited when he saw Eve. Eve was different, but still like him.

Adam knew God was the Creator. He’d seen God form animals, so he was familiar with God as Creator. Adam had even been able to choose names for the animals. So he had familiarity with the creative process. So something amazing had to have happened that caused him to exclaim about this creation.

Can I tell you what makes me smile when I think about this? This is just my imagination.

  1. God as Creator. I believe Adam knew God as the One and Only Creator. But I like to smile thinking that maybe he thought to himself, wow, God outdid Himself with this one!
  2. Woman. I smile because I like to think that Adam was floored that something so wonderful came from a part of him
  3. For him. I smile thinking that Adam was blown away by this companion for him. He fell asleep with animals that weren’t meeting his need for companionship, and woke up with the only one that could, by God’s design.

The miracle of marriage is and was always meant to be as remarkable as this moment. There was always supposed to be this indescribable moment when a man in God’s will meets a woman in God’s will, and God ordains their marriage. At last!

Long before there was Etta James (singer of At Last), there was Adam. At last! At last, what I didn’t even know I needed, God provided.

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People say life is boring. During this time of quarantine, even more people have this idea. My questions are and will always be, have you read anything? Have you written anything? Have you worked out? Have you reached out to anyone?

If you haven’t done anything to work on being a better person during this time, then you certainly have no time to be bored. If you have done anything to work on being a better person you already know that work is never done, and there’s no time to be bored.

Have you read your Bible during this time? Have you prayed more? Have you gone deeper with God? Those things are certainly not boring.

The Bible is not boring. It may be long. It may be confusing at times. It may even be hard to read. But it is not boring. That’s for sure.

Scholars will tell you it’s interesting. Albeit they read from a place of entertainment or simply good storytelling, but they wouldn’t say it’s boring, that’s for sure. 

Prayer is not boring. It’s an opportunity to speak with the Creator of the Universe. None of these things are boring, or useless, when they make you a better person.

I guess what I’m saying is, maybe you’re not bored. Maybe you’re just not trying. 


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Love Languages

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Well I’m 31! Truth be told, I always say I’m older than I really am anyway. For one reason, it makes it easier to cope with. For another, I just love getting older. I love it.

So this year, what do I believe I should focus on? That’s a question I like to ask. I remember praying for wisdom when I was younger. I had finished reading about Solomon. I think it’s even more fitting to ask for wisdom as I grow older. Is there anything as annoying as an ignorant older person?

Thirty-one will bring its challenges. My knees and back make a lot more noise than they used to. Yet, I’m continuing to understand how much more of a blessing it is to wake up, albeit with some minor aches and pains. I tore my ACL twice and fractured a kneecap playing basketball, so the creaks are part of the territory.

All I’m saying is, growing older is much more fun when we realize the blessing it is to grow older. Life gets tough, there’s no doubt about that, but since we know it, do we need to add to the drudgery or dread? Life is a blessing, and until mine is over I’m accepting all the blessings God has for me on this side of eternity.

Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. – Psalm 90:12

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