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Diversity

I could be wrong. I could be overreacting. But in my opinion (key words), there’s just too much of a lack of diversity in several areas of our lives. Maybe it’s just my being in the South that plays a part in this.

I believe we have all these unique people created in God’s image to be able to engage with one another. I don’t think He made us different to stay away from one another. I think it’s our differences that enable us to creatively cultivate ideas and concepts.

This is a short post, but I was curious to see if anyone else felt that the lack of diversity was an issue? I’m used to being the only black person in a lot of places, but should I have to be?

I could be wrong. I could be right. I just wanted to invite people to think about whether or not this is an issue where they are. It may not be. In fact, I hope it’s not. However, I do believe that if you can easily count the people in a room that look like you, it just may not be diverse enough.

 

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Crucifixion Biography

027441-glossy-black-icon-culture-religion-cross-simpleI really want to approach the story of Christ’s crucifixion from a different perspective. I’ve been in prayer and asking God, that I not approach it as a story I’ve read many times, but as a part of my own biography. It may not be an event that I saw, but it was for me that He was there. It’s not just for the history books, it’s for my present and future.

The day that Christ was crucified is a pinnacle day in my own life story. Although it is a Bible story from many years ago, its purpose was and is for me. His crucifixion and resurrection are the events that make His life as a perfect sacrifice the final piece. Therefore, these events are what make my salvation the final piece.

To separate this story from my own personal biography would be in a sense, to separate salvation from my own narrative. And without salvation, without forgiveness, without God’s love, I am nothing.

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Hear Me Out: It Bothers Me

This morning I had a very interesting thought. I am speaking from what I observe most of the time, so I’m not saying this happens all the time. I’m not here to preach on sin or sinful lifestyles or sinful choices even though that might seem like where I’m going, so hear me out.
It bothers me that if a Christian speaks out against drug abuse, or sex outside of marriage, or drunkenness, very rarely if ever, have I heard the media or public label that person as someone who hates those people. I’ve yet to hear a Christian described as a person who hates people who do drugs or hates people who have sex outside of marriage, or as someone who hates people who get drunk.
So my question is why is that usually the first thing the media wants to tack onto someone who says homosexuality is wrong? If a Christian says homosexuality is a sin then they seem to almost immediately receive this stigma that they hate people who are homosexuals. Why is that?
As a Christian, homosexuality is a sin along with many others. So why is it that if someone says that, they are intolerable and we should boycott everything they do, but that’s not the case when they speak out against other sins?
I am grateful for the Christians who undergo so much scrutiny for simply sharing God’s truth. There have been many who have been successful in the limelight and have not compromised their beliefs. But I am also saddened by our society.
How is it that a group of people can ban together and decide to boycott someone for speaking God’s Truth, and that person can have so much removed from their lives by this movement? Yet, Christians don’t seem to do the same. How can a show like Lucifer be on TV, while the cast of Duck Dynasty has to explain why they don’t mean to be offensive by praying?
Shouldn’t it bother us that we live in a world that if any one group of people disagree with what you said that could be the end of your career? Shouldn’t we be upset that we seem to live in a society that says it’s OK for me to be intolerable of your beliefs when I don’t want to tolerate them?
This isn’t meant to be a blog about homosexuality or drugs or sex outside of marriage or drunkenness or any of the many sins we all commit or have committed. This is just about something I have noticed in our society that, to me, is a real issue. Trust me, I am a communications major so I know the love I should have for the media, but the issue I am addressing here is caused by the power we have given media as a society.
The power to paint the picture of hate where love is the intent. The power to color in lies where truth is spoken. And the ability to get you to believe whatever they say is true without promoting a desire for you to research it yourself. Let’s all do better, OK?

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Be Good in 2017

Do good. That’s my motto this year. Simple and to the point. Do good. My motto comes from my scripture motto Galatians 6:9-10.

So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone—especially to those in the family of faith (New Living Translation).

It’s very easy to get tired of doing good. It’s easy to compare yourself to others when you get tired of doing good too. It’s easy to say, well they aren’t doing good, and they certainly aren’t doing good to me, so why try? Because the Bible tells me so.

Scripture isn’t saying we’ve got to be best friends with everybody. It’s not saying everyone has to be in our inner circle to show that we’re being kind. It’s just saying, hey be good to people. Be good especially to those in the family of faith. And be good to those who aren’t because they need it most. They don’t have an eternal hope, don’t you think they need goodness even more?

Do good for people, and be good to people whenever you can. Goodness isn’t weakness, it’s holiness.

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Wedding Vows

I wanted my final post of 2016 to go to my husband. Thank you for loving God. Thank you for being you. Here is my worldwide reminder of my vows:

Brandon, when you look at me everything changes. When you look at me the world makes sense. When you look at me it changes my outlook. Every day I am reminded of how much God loves me. You are the epitome of a man that would make me happy.

I’m so glad that when God made you He had me in mind. And I’m so glad that when God made marriage, in 2016 He had our marriage in mind. I’m so glad when God had love and marriage in mind that we were a part of that list. I’m so grateful that of all the many blessings upon my life that I know I don’t deserve that you are at the top of the list. And every day your love reminds me that God is love and that He created us to love one another.

I thank God every day that you are a reminder of what Christ did when He came and gave up His life for the church. And I thank God so much that He created you, and that you are a man that loves everything about me. You love everything that I am and everything that I’m not. Whether that’s natural, in sweatpants, with no makeup. Or all glammed up.

So today, I, Chanel, take you, Brandon to be the man I love and the man God loves. I will support and respect the man God created you to be. And the purpose He created us for.

I take you as my husband, with your faults and your strengths, as I offer myself to you with my faults and strengths. I will be your Proverbs 31 and turn to you when I need help and be there for you when you need help. I will encourage you even when I feel discouraged. I will uplift you when I feel downtrodden. I will love you when I feel least loving. I will do my best to lose every argument. My best to be the first to sacrifice. And my hardest to admit when I’m wrong.

I take you, to be my husband to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for bad, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and rippedness, to love and to cherish till death do us part. I pledge thee my faith in every area of my life, especially my heart.

May my body be fully committed to you. May my eyes stay focused on God and you. May my heart desire to be in sync with the beat of yours. May my hands long to do God’s work alongside yours. I pray that my body, head to toe, inside and out, will please you spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.

On this day, I am reminded of just how mighty God is and how perfect His timing is, and how wonderful His plans are. On this day I am yours. On this day I am Chanel Moore. On this day I have a new entity added to my identity. I am the wife of Brandon Moore, and there is no better man that I can I ask for.

 

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Deity for Me

How could it be

That You would give it up Your deity for me?

Even when sin is all I can see

Still You gave up Your deity for me.

 

A King on His Throne

Then it was gone.

You chose humility

All for me.

 

I really don’t understand

But it was Your master plan.

And although to me it doesn’t make sense

Your love is just that intense.

 

No more life of sin

I win!

Because of what You did

When on the cross, Your love was not hid.

 

And as undeserving as I may be

I’ve accepted You as my Savior, You see.

After all, what would life be

Without accepting the One who gave up deity for me?

 

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My husband and I ran into each other at church one Sunday. This was obviously before we were dating and this was the first time we had seen each other since high school. And he looked at me.

He looked at me like I was the only person in the building. He looked at me like he had been looking for me since high school and finally had found me. He looked at me like no one had ever looked at me.

All week I thought about how he looked at me. And whenever I saw his name in an old yearbook or on Facebook I would go back to that moment. The moment when he looked at me. And a peaceful smile would come on my face.

Years later when we started dating, unlike my usual dating scheme I put all the games aside and volunteered honesty. You know, cause usually it’s the don’t ask, I ain’t telling playing field. But for some reason it was different. So I voluntarily told him, “You know, you looked at me some kind of way when I saw you at church that Sunday. I can’t describe it, but it was completely different than any look I’ve ever experienced. You seemed genuinely happy to see me.”

I say all that to say, that like most huge life decisions we always wonder. Did I do the right thing? Was the timing right? What now?

But when I think about my marriage and God’s presence in my dating relationship with my now husband, I’m taken back to that day. See, the peace of God surpasses all understanding. And there was a pleasant peace in my heart  when I saw Brandon that day and he looked at me. And still today, when I think of that moment, I feel this peace come over me all over again.

I guess what I’m saying is that when God orchestrates your decisions, you can still feel the peace of the moment even after it’s long passed, because His peace surpasses all understanding and is not like the world gives (Philippians 4:7; John 14:27).

Brandon and I don’t have a perfect relationship. I’m hard to live with. And we disagree. Not because we won’t to, but because we are two completely different people. But there is one thing we have always had in common, and that’s God. Because God is our common factor we can experience true love and peace.

Is it easy being loving all the time? No. Does everything go just right so I can be in a constant state of peace? Not hardly. But neither of those things are circumstantial either. What I’m saying is, I serve a God that can remind me of a peaceful moment from the past, that can still result in peace in the present, even when my current circumstances are anything but that.

My marriage may not be perfect, but my God is. And because He is perfect and we are married to glorify Him, we have a better chance at a “perfect” marriage than we would have by trying to make it happen on our own. We need God. And with the truth of knowing that we need God, comes His peace.

 

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