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Love People to Jesus

Is love your number one goal? We live in a world today where people believe it’s OK to say whatever you want to because it’s true. It’s a free country, and you certainly have that right to, but how you say it and your motive behind it could be more harmful for you and them than you realize. So, let’s just get to the nitty gritty.

Jesus wasn’t a pushover. We like to use the term, “I have my truth.” Well, Jesus had His because He literally was the truth. And even in the things He said to the Pharisees that may make us blush in embarrassment for them, were said out of love for them. Jesus felt nothing but love for people, and no matter how aggressive His speech had to be to get that point across, He did and said everything out of love.

So, what’s my point? Do we do what we do or say what we say out of love? Or are we more motivated by the opportunity to correct someone? Or maybe the opportunity to just be right? And for some, even the opportunity to just call people out?

Here’s the bottom line.

If love wasn’t your goal, you were wrong. When you said what you said, was it because you loved them? When you did what you did, was it because you loved them? If it wasn’t, you were wrong. And no matter how true it may have been, if you didn’t say it as an expression of love in leading someone to Christ, you were wrong. See, no matter what, if you spoke the truth in selfishness, comparison, and pride, you didn’t speak it in love. And that’s wrong.

If love wasn’t your motive, then you may have made a mess.

 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.  (1 Cor. 13:4,5).

1 Corinthians 14:1 Let love be your highest goal…

 

 

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You 2.0 – “New” Series

2 Corinthians 5:17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!

The beauty in becoming a true Christian is the change that comes with it. God, in His love, actually changes us when we become Christians. As His Holy Spirit dwells within us, we have the luxury of not only seeing our lives and purpose in a different way, but pretty much everything around us. We become a new person. What do I mean? Well, let’s look. 

  1. Our thoughts change when we become Christians. Ephesians 4:23, Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. As a Christian, I don’t entertain the thoughts I used to. I recognize their wrongness and have to make the decision to refuse to dwell on such things. 
  2. My life is no longer about me being the center of attention. My decisions are no longer about how only I am affected by them, but how others are. Philippians 4: 3,  Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. 
  3. Desires change as we become new people. The things of earthly value begin to diminish in appeal as you grow in your relationship with God. And obtaining the newest thing or things in general just doesn’t seem to matter anymore. 1 John 2:17, And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever. 
  4. Your purpose in life takes a turn. You begin to realize how much you matter and how much serving your purpose matters for God’s Kingdom. 1 Timothy 6:12, Fight the good fight for the true faith. Hold tightly to the eternal life to which God has called you, which you have declared so well before many witnesses. 
  5. Lastly, your view of sin changes. You practically ache from the reality of the distance that sin has placed between you and God. You can’t help but thank God for the opportunity to repent for the sins committed. Ezekiel 36:31, Then you will remember your past sins and despise yourselves for all the detestable things you did. 

And while there is much more that takes place as we become new persons, these are just a few of the things that have taken place in my life. Won’t you accept Christ today to experience all this and then some?  

Today is the day of salvation. 

2 Corinthians 6:2 For God says, “At just the right time, I heard you. On the day of salvation, I helped you.” Indeed, the “right time” is now. Today is the day of salvation. 

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Don’t Taint the Waters

2 Kings 5 – The Healing of Naaman 

So, certainly read the story yourself, but I will give a brief synopsis. There was a guy named Naaman that the king really liked. Naaman had leprosy, a contagious skin disease. It’s actually surprising that he would have such a high rank as an army commander since lepers we usually “banned” from society. 

Anyway, a young servant girl to his wife told Naaman he should go see the prophet Elisha to be healed. Elisha tells Naaman to bathe in the Jordan River seven times and he will be restored. Naaman is outraged at the menial instructions and asks why he should bathe in the Jordan River since there are better rivers than it. His officers tell him if it had been something extraordinary he was told to do he would’ve listened to the prophet’s command, so why not listen to his simple instructions? 

So, Naaman agree, goes to the Jordan and bathes seven times, and is healed! 

Many of us are like Naaman. We’re in a jam and we want to tell God how He should get us out of it. We want something and want to tell God how to give it. But that’s not how it works. 

The thing that has always stuck out to me was that Naaman felt that he should bathe in the best waters. That’s crazy right? Naaman has a contagious skin disease and he wants to get in the good, clean water? 

And just like Naaman, we have our own contagions, don’t we? We want a good godly man, but don’t want to be godly women, thus we taint the relationship. We want a promotion, but don’t want to learn and mature for it, tainting the position. Or better yet, we want a big salary, knowing we haven’t been good stewards of what we currently have, tainting our finances. 

When you’ve been involved in something with no intention or effort to make it better, every now and then, God has to keep us out of the good water so we don’t mess them up too. But, yet and still, God in His infinite wisdom, love, and care, still uses the menial to perform the miraculous.  

So ask yourself, are you keeping the waters clean? 

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Sorry not Sorry

You know, I really get tired of people coming to apologize for things they’re not going to change. I don’t feel like forgiving a mistake that someone is probably going to make again in the next hour or day. The whole I’m sorry, I won’t do it again, I’m sorry I did it again routine gets so old. 

But, what I really can’t wrap my brain around is how God does it. 

I can’t remember how many times I was sorry. Or how many times I was sorry, again. Or for that matter, how many times I was sorry and this was the last time. So, what I’m saying is, God forgave me knowing I would sin again. And His “know” isn’t a gut-instinct like ours, He really knows. Yet, He forgives. 

So, the question is, who am I not to forgive you for some of the very things I’m asking God to forgive me for? 

Colossians 3:13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. 

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Study this Book

I’m so excited about this idea “Study this Book.” Each week we’ll select scriptures, a chapter, maybe even a book of the Bible and read it together. At the end of the week, I will come back and share what my favorite scripture was, or what stood out to me.

Why?

  1. studyI want to motivate people to have a relationship with God, by reading His word.
  2. I want to encourage people to read.
  3. I especially want to encourage people to read the Bible.

I understand it’s hard to read the Bible using some of the plans out there.

  1. If you’re trying to read the Bible in a year, it’s a lot of pressure. In the past, once I missed a day or two I felt like giving up.
  2. It’s hard reading the Bible when you don’t feel like you’re receiving support or accountability.
  3. Sometimes it’s hard to understand, based on the version you’re reading or just because you don’t know what you’re reading.

Hopefully, this platform will provide encouragement and accountability, and understanding in some ways for us all.

At the end of the day, this is about you getting alone with God’s Word and reading it. It’s hopefully about you working to build a relationship with Him by studying His Word. Because I can get on here and tell you what I learned, but it will not replace you spending time alone with God yourself and having Him reveal something new to you.

Allow Him to do that. Study this book with us!

Joshua 1:8 Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do.

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“Specktator”

Matthew 7: 3-5 (NLT)

And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.

Christianity is not a spectator’s sport. It’s almost like we treat it as a way to justify watching and pointing at people and their sins.  

Now, I’m not saying we should have a blind eye to sin. As Christians, we are to speak the truth in love and recognize sin for what it is, sin. The issue lies in my blind eye to my own sin. If I’m so busy telling you what you do wrong, it doesn’t leave much time for me to see my own faults. 

In doing so, I’ve lessened my sins and focused on yours. Instead of seeing you as a brother/sister in need of truth and love, I’ve turned you into a spectacle.  

The more I maximize your speck, the more likely I am to increase my log. So, what would cause all of this? Pride. And I believe we don’t need any more people who sit around and pridefully watch wrongs. And we certainly don’t need any more that refuse to see their own wrongs. 

In essence, pride see what you’ve done as worse than what I’ve done. It seeks to compare and to judge. Pride is the very log that sees the speck as being the problem. 

In fact, pride refuses to realize that it’s easier to remove a speck than it is to remove a log. Pride is the spectator that makes a spectacle of your sin. 

 

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Diversity

I could be wrong. I could be overreacting. But in my opinion (key words), there’s just too much of a lack of diversity in several areas of our lives. Maybe it’s just my being in the South that plays a part in this.

I believe we have all these unique people created in God’s image to be able to engage with one another. I don’t think He made us different to stay away from one another. I think it’s our differences that enable us to creatively cultivate ideas and concepts.

This is a short post, but I was curious to see if anyone else felt that the lack of diversity was an issue? I’m used to being the only black person in a lot of places, but should I have to be?

I could be wrong. I could be right. I just wanted to invite people to think about whether or not this is an issue where they are. It may not be. In fact, I hope it’s not. However, I do believe that if you can easily count the people in a room that look like you, it just may not be diverse enough.

 

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