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Diversity

I could be wrong. I could be overreacting. But in my opinion (key words), there’s just too much of a lack of diversity in several areas of our lives. Maybe it’s just my being in the South that plays a part in this.

I believe we have all these unique people created in God’s image to be able to engage with one another. I don’t think He made us different to stay away from one another. I think it’s our differences that enable us to creatively cultivate ideas and concepts.

This is a short post, but I was curious to see if anyone else felt that the lack of diversity was an issue? I’m used to being the only black person in a lot of places, but should I have to be?

I could be wrong. I could be right. I just wanted to invite people to think about whether or not this is an issue where they are. It may not be. In fact, I hope it’s not. However, I do believe that if you can easily count the people in a room that look like you, it just may not be diverse enough.

 

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Adobe Spark (3)

 

 

If I had more faith

I could move mountains.

But maybe I should serve

And wipe off the water fountain.

 

I could change the world

If I had more power

Or maybe I could change it

If  I volunteered for an hour.

 

Think of what I could do

With a little more money

Or maybe I could offer tissue

To the person whose nose is runny.

 

Think of the possibilities

If I had a better title

Isn’t the title of servant

The most vital?

 

Wishing I had a better car

Is that so wrong?

Only when there is no gratitude

In your song.

 

More and more

We think that’s what it takes

When really it’s more love

That makes the world great.

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I’m Married Now

Well, I’m married now. I’m officially officially off the market. And it’s different. For him, maybe not so much yet, but for me, yes. I can feel the difference.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a good different. Change is good. Marriage is good. And I think a lot of times marriages don’t work is because people don’t want to change. So if you don’t want to change, certainly don’t get married. Don’t even have a relationship if that’s the case.

But yes, I am Chanel Moore now. And when I say it’s different right now, I mean that it’s uniquely different. I sleep in the bed with someone, and it’s good. That’s a fun part.

I share finances with someone else. I make decisions with a counterpart. I have to consider someone else in pretty much everything I do now. And that’s not to say that we hadn’t started doing these things before we married (except sleeping together, please WAIT! It’s so worth it.). But it was almost like we did those things because it was nice to do. Now it’s a must.

I’m sure I will continue to chronicle about marriage. And I know it won’t be easy, but while it’s good, I want to talk about it. I want to have this accountability. I want to look back on this on tough days and remember why we got married.

I am married. And it’s different, but it’s good.

 

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Change Me?

You know, it’s interesting that when we pray for things that aren’t going our way, we pray for people to be changed. You know, my marriage isn’t going right because he won’t change. Or my job isn’t easy because my boss is ridiculous. Those types of things.

I believe we should pray for people. No doubt. But it’s interesting to me that we can be selfish enough to pray for everyone else to change, but not pray for ourselves. We can pray for our boss to change or for our husband to do better. But oddly enough, we’re hurt when God tells us we need to change.

Why would we pray for everything else to change, but feel like we should stay the same? If everythng else needs to be changed, isn’t there a possibility we could use a little reboot as well? Today, I believe God just wanted me to have this little reminder.

When things aren’t going my way. When he doesn’t get it. When they just seem too difficult to deal with. Maybe I should pray to have some things in my heart revealed before I pray that God change someone else. A change is gonna come, and it might have to start with me.

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Spiritual Cutlery, Part 2

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4) Listen – Oh be careful little ears what you hear.

  • Music is said to be used for “mood management.”
  • Have we noticed the correlation of disrespect in our culture with the degradation in the music of today?
  • How does certain music make you feel?

Ephesians 5:18-19; Psalm 95:1; Proverbs 2:2

What if you replaced or at least balanced that music with Christian music or an inspirational podcast?

5) TV – You see it and you hear it.

How much time do you spend watching TV? _________________________

How much time do you spend in prayer?      __________________________

We have a culture of desensitized, fantasizing Americans because we have watched too much TV. Forgive me if the stats are outdated now.

  • 56% of divorces involved a spouse with a porn addiction.
  • Average American spends 5 hours a day watching TV, has 5 social media accounts and spends 1 hour and 40 minutes a day on them.
  • Popular shows: The Walking Dead, American Horror Story, Empire, Basketball Wives, Love and Hip-Hop, Modern Family, HTGAWM, News etc…
  • African Americans watch 218 hours a month, while whites watch 155.3, Hispanics 123.2, and Asians 92.3.
  • The average Georgian spends about 12 minutes a day on religious activities.

Psalm 119:37; Isaiah 33:15

  • A mind is a terrible thing to waste, and to put waste into!

Proverbs 23:7 (KJV) –  For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…

The Main Point

Hebrews 4:12 (NLT) – For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.

  • In essence, the only way to keep your mind sharp, is to keep it filled with the Word.

Vending machine – I put $1.00 in, I get $1.00 worth of food or drink out. I put the Word, and out comes the Word. I put in trash, well, eventually I start to smell it.

Transformation Chamber 

WE are called to live a different life. And that is going to require different time commitments and changes in what we put into our minds.

  • Romans 12:2 (NLT) – Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
  • Philippians 4:8 (NLT) – And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.

Remember the transformation chamber from Family Matters? When Steve mixed the right ingredients, he had the right formula to transform himself. In essence, he looked the same, but he was completely different when the right ingredients went into the chamber. When we step into the Word, our transformation chamber, we may look the same, but we don’t step out the same.

5-Minute Challenge: For one week, spend the first 5 minutes of your day with God (pray, read a devotion, listen to gospel music, or a podcast).

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Change in Relationships Bible Study

Embracing Changes for Good in Relationships: T.I.C.S.

Relationships are important. Relationships are good (Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). And even though they are important and good, there are still times when we don’t want to embrace the new things that come with them. Is it fear? Do we not want to change? Is it the fear of change? Tonight, we will discuss a few components that have to take place in true relationships.

  1. Trust – “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.”—Stephen Covey
  • Why is it hard to trust?
  • Trust equals vulnerability, we don’t like to be vulnerable.
  • Read Proverbs 3:5-6: If your trust is in the Lord, He will give you the ability to wisely trust others.
  1. Identity – “The value of identity of course is that so often with it comes purpose.”—Richard Grant
  • We don’t like to change who we are, no matter how much we need to, but why?
  • Galatians 3:26; Romans 8:14-16 – I am a child of God.
  • Your most important part of your identity never changes.
  • You don’t know who you are until you know Whose you are. —Ronnie Williams
  1. Compromise – “Let no one think that flexibility and a predisposition to compromise is a sign of weakness or a sell-out.”—Paul Kagame
  • Why not compromise?
  • I have to give of myself and trust you will do the same (thus leaving me vulnerable) …
  • Read Philippians 2:3-4: Show others that they matter.

Note: John 14:15: Compromise anywhere you can, but certainly not your beliefs.

  1. Sacrifice – “The most sublime act is to set another before you.” —William Blake
  • We don’t like or want to give up anything (especially if we don’t like to compromise).
  • Read John 15:13 – If giving up my life is great love, why can’t I give up my time, money, pride, etc.?

How can we cope with change?

Reprogram from society’s thinking: Have to v. Get to Mindset

  • We get to grow in these areas.

Question of the Day: If we struggle with these changes, and we are meant to be agents of change what are the steps that we are taking to build relationships with those in our communities who will struggle with the same things?

Beauty and the Beast – The transition of a flourishing relationship when one learns to trust, compromise, and sacrifice to become a better person.

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Salvation won’t change your past.

What does salvation do for you? Why should I want it? How will it change anything? I think those are some major questions that people have. And I get having questions. We all have questions.

Being honest, salvation won’t change your past. No one makes changes in life because they want their past to be different, but because they want a better future. That’s a fact that what has happened has happened. So why does that come into play when it comes to salvation? These unwritten rules start to matter when getting saved comes into play, but they didn’t matter before.

This isn’t particularly for anyone but me today. I really just want to read this aloud to myself. This isn’t a post to convince anyone to get saved, although you should. The most dangerous way to live is to live not knowing Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.

Salvation will not change what I used to be like. It won’t change my past. It won’t change the feelings I’ve hurt. It won’t change my hurt feelings. Salvation won’t change what I’ve done, but it will change who I become.

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