There is this belief that true love will lead you to a person just like you. True love will lead you to the person you never argue with or disagree with. Somehow, somewhere, this is the myth of true love floating around. I don’t know who started it, but it’s floating.
Brandon and I really aren’t that much alike. When we dated, it seemed like we were. We had little differences here and there, but for the most part, we focused on what we did have in common of course. Once we passed the “getting to know you on your best behavior phase”, we realized that we’re pretty different.
We argue. We disagree. Different people do that. We love each other, but we don’t always see eye to eye. True love does not mean automatic peace. It doesn’t mean freedom from trying because it just works out. It means you love each other.
I’m not trying to discourage anyone. But I want people to understand, you don’t know someone until you marry them. And if you married for the right reason (God’s plan for your lives), you will work to make your marriage work. But by no means will you marry someone you will never disagree with.
I think it’s Rick Warren or Tony Evans that says, if you marry someone just like you, one of you isn’t needed. It’s OK to be different. So make sure you’re needed.
Now or Never 