Why get married? That’s been the question. If you can have a support system and companionship without sexual immorality, why get married?
To me, it’s obvious that God created marriage for more than just the right to have sex. In fact, I believe that if He didn’t create marriage for more than that, we wouldn’t see so many failed marriages. Satan attacks marriages and families because they are the most powerful foundational relationships God created between human beings.
But, in response to the original question, I have a question. What if we aren’t living up to our potential to know why God has given some of us a spouse? The Bible says that a wife of noble character will help her husband (Proverbs 31:12, NLT). But, what if he’s not living up to his full potential to know why he needs the help a virtuous wife? Perhaps that’s the real question we need to ask.
I don’t believe that people have to get married, but I do believe that there is a purpose behind marriage. Married couples are supposed to build one another up in their walk with God. And if spouses aren’t living up to their full potential, then it’s easy to wonder what the purpose of your marriage is. When you’re not in a situation or position where you need the support that only a marital spouse can provide, it’s easy to believe that any support would do.
If God blesses you with marriage, great. If He blesses you with singleness, just as good (1 Corinthians 7:7). Whatever He blesses you with, just know that if you’re not operating out of your full God-given potential, it can easily seem like a curse.
I don’t understand myself and my human nature. For some reason, I fear the very things that I have committed to never be. If I am completely in God’s will and that is my only goal, then the things I fear becoming will never be as long as that stays my main purpose.
It’s a strange phenomenon. Fear. It’s so powerful. So life changing. So, discontenting. It’s so fearful…
I know how strange that sounds, but it really is true. Fear is simply fearful. We’re afraid of being afraid. That’s why it’s so powerful. It’s one fear feeding off of another fear. Like people who say success makes them hungrier for more success. Fear empowers more fear.
And it’s scary. We don’t know how we got this way, and we don’t know how to not be. And the only thing I can say is, keep the Main thing the main thing. Forever have a purpose to do God’s will and the fear will fade. God has not given us the spirit of fear (2 Timothy 1:7). So don’t take ownership.
Feeling purposeless is one of the worst feelings in the world. And it’s for a reason that it feels so crumby. That feeling was never ever meant to be.
It’s because you have a purpose. And any time there is anything going on to make you feel purposeless, it’s not godly. God has given you a purpose and it is your job to live it out.
As much as I have felt this feeling and known how wrong it is to feel that way, I couldn’t help it. I’ve always known my purpose and then, I found myself questioning it. Something was obviously not right…
And all I could tell myself was that God had a purpose and God had a plan. So if you’re having a struggle with purpose right now, all I can say is, know your purpose and know your worth. It’s what I have to tell myself.
But while I’m telling myself that, it’s past time that I start believing it as well.
Proverbs 19:21 (NLT) You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.
When we pray for purpose we rarely pray for something small. You know, we think purpose and we think of speaking to a crowd, or leading several people to Christ. You hardly think of praying for someone, or reading with them being the big task.
The person who went and prayed for a group of people at their job didn’t serve less of a purpose than the person who preached a sermon to 1000 people. They were both operating in God’s will and serving the purpose that He put them there to serve.They were both busy doing a work for God. They were both honoring God. The amount of people affected isn’t nearly as important as who will affect them, which is God.
God is showing me that “even if” is just fine. Even if my purpose is only to show up and pray in the office or classrooms, then that’s just fine. I’ve been struggling with purpose on my job. All I can think of is that I’ve prayed with a few people, met some new people, and that’s it. But if I am only here to pray for people, and that’s what God wants me to do, then He needs to know I can handle that.
If He can’t trust that I will walk in my purpose to pray for people, then how can he trust I’ll serve my purpose in leading people one day? God has said if praying is all I need you to do, who are you to question that?
I’m going to deal with purpose for a few days. It’s been heavy on my heart lately. Not necessarily for anyone else, but mainly for myself honestly.
I have purpose in every second of my life. In every part of who I am there is purpose. Whether I choose to believe that is up to me, but regardless of whether or not I do believe it, it does not change the fact that it’s the truth. I am walking, talking, breathing, purpose.
My purpose isn’t determined by what I think it should be, but why God created it to be. And I can seek solace in the fact that anything I do in God’s will is perfection. As long as I operate in His purpose for me, what I do is perfect. Isn’t that good news? No matter how insignificant it may be seem, no matter how much like someone else’s work it seems, as long as I’m in God’s will it is perfection.
When I’m at work I don’t see perfection. I see a little bit of frustration. I see a little bit of weariness. I see some good, but I see some struggling. My purpose looks bleak to me. But I’m so glad that God sees differently. What I’m able to see isn’t everything, Truth be told, it’s not anything compared to what God sees.
Jeremiah 29:11 (NLT)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
I’ve been having a tough time. I’ve been holding my mirror and I haven’t enjoyed what I’ve been seeing. Even the things I kind of like, I’m not excellent in. I’m just seeing a good effort.
I’ve been praying heavily for comfort and encouragement. And what I don’t get is why I’ve been praying for it, receiving it, and still acting unphased, or even worse unappreciative. Since I started this new journey, God has provided scriptures, devotions, and sermons about adversity, purpose patience, etc. You name it, He’s gave it. But if I wasn’t going to appreciate it, what was I praying for it for?
Truth be told, I had to call myself out. God showed me my wrong and my foolishness. I was praying for God to give me something that He did and still not doing my part in it all.
So recently I had to ask God to help me pray and receive the right way. I really had to tell God, do not let me pray for something You will give me that I will not appreciate. Enough is enough.
A lot of times we think about what situation we want God to put us in. We go ahead and come up with everything we want to get from it as well. But we usually neglect to think about what people God might want us to be around that only that situation will provide the opportunity for.
It’s not always a situation that you are to serve a purpose from, or not just a situation I should say. There are people you are to serve a purpose to, and there are people that are to serve a purpose to you as well. It’s not right to be out of place and not allow people to serve their purpose for you.
In other words, it’s not always all about a situation. It’s not always all about that situation’s purpose (it has one, no doubt), but sometimes it’s more about who you are supposed to serve or serve with. As unfortunate as the situation may be, it might be the only one that will provide you with the opportunity to be of service to or with someone else in that way.