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Why Marriage?

Why get married? That’s been the question. If you can have a support system and companionship without sexual immorality, why get married?

To me, it’s obvious that God created marriage for more than just the right to have sex. In fact, I believe that if He didn’t create marriage for more than that, we wouldn’t see so many failed marriages. Satan attacks marriages and families because they are the most powerful foundational relationships God created between human beings.

But, in response to the original question, I have a question. What if we aren’t living up to our potential to know why God has given some of us a spouse? The Bible says that a wife of noble character will help her husband (Proverbs 31:12, NLT). But, what if he’s not living up to his full potential to know why he needs the help a virtuous wife? Perhaps that’s the real question we need to ask.

I don’t believe that people have to get married, but I do believe that there is a purpose behind marriage. Married couples are supposed to build one another up in their walk with God. And if spouses aren’t living up to their full potential, then it’s easy to wonder what the purpose of your marriage is. When you’re not in a situation or position where you need the support that only a marital spouse can provide, it’s easy to believe that any support would do.

If God blesses you with marriage, great. If He blesses you with singleness, just as good (1 Corinthians 7:7).  Whatever He blesses you with, just know that if you’re not operating out of your full God-given potential, it can easily seem like a curse.


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Hear Me Out: Dream Watching

You know, I believe that we should get tired of seeing everybody else living out their dreams. By no means am I saying be unsupportive or hate their success, we all know I’m about success and support. But at some point we should get tired of seeing everybody else achieve their dreams, and still just watch it from the sidelines.

Where is our own desire to do the same for ourselves? We should certainly get tired of seeing everybody else achieve our dreams. I believe we all have dreams and hopes and ambitions for a reason. And I believe that when they are good and helpful to God’s Kingdom, society, and others, that they are the most important dreams that we can have. And something in us should stir when we sit and watch people do the things that we’ve dreamt of doing ourselves.

Eventually something in you should I say I want to achieve my dreams and I don’t have time to watch anybody else right now achieve their own. Not to say that I don’t want to be supportive or that I can’t be, because I truly can be. I can be happy when people reach their goals, but eventually I should get tired of seeing everybody else reach their goals, and still not reach my own because I’m not trying and I’m not working at them. Therein lies the issue.

At some point in your life you should want to stop being the person that’s full of potential and start living out the potential that you want people to invest in. Eventually the person you could be is not going to be enough and you need to start being that person.

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The 3 I’s – Influence, Impact, and Impossible

I had to speak to some hometown ninth graders a week ago. It was a great opportunity for me to hear what I need to work on. My MacBook is down so I had to use a different software and computer. Sorry for the blurriness!

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Setting the Bar

Sometimes that bar looks way too high.

It looks like it’s dangling 100 feet above me and like someone is asking me to just jump up and grab it. And I can’t. I’m 5’5 and you’re asking me to hop up into the air and to pull at this bar. I don’t even know that if I tug at it it will come down or that I’ll ever reach it to find out.

Is it pressure when you are supposed to be great? Is it unfair to expect to be better than the best when you come from a line of people who were just that? It’s unrealistic to feel able to rest when so much of me comes from people who worked and spent restless days and nights for the opportunities that I lie in and out of.

It can’t be wrong for me to expect myself to offer more to the world than I do. Especially when so much of who I am boils over with people who set fire to otherwise calming water. When so much of me is about who was before me. When my family is what it is, how can I not be great?

The bar is high. But it’s not too high. The water is hot. But it’s not hot enough. The time is right, right now. I’ve got to do this. I’ve got to continue in the lineage of greatness that has been set before me. Literally, before me.  I have no choice. I don’t know what mediocrity is. I don’t function out of it. My bloodline doesn’t understand that.

Mediocrity and me don’t have the same blood type. That’s some other ancestry, not mine.

It’s now or never. If I don’t prepare in greatness today when will I ever? Yesterday is too late, tomorrow is too far away, but today is the day.

And you know what, I hope that bar gets higher.

I hope that once I step up it’s another 100 feet higher. It has to be. Reaching the first 100 is just reaching mediocrity. The next 100 is the determining factor.

The next 100 is where it all takes place. It’s where new and old meet and create what is needed now. Where the past and present come together to create a better future. It’s where I vow not to settle.

Yes, the next 100 is where few go. The next 100 is where some come and turn back around. But not me, this 100 is on the way… It’s on the way to my next, because this one just won’t be enough. It can’t be.

The first set was a guideline. The second is to put it into practice. But the third. The third is for my trail. Those are my footsteps.

I’m going somewhere no one else has ever been. But when you do get there, you’ll see the guideline that I left behind.

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