You know what?
I’m tired of making excuses for people’s injustices against me. Whether it is in work, family, or relationships. I’m through with it.
Sometimes you said what you said and did what you did. And you can’t justify it and I’m not going to justify it for you.
I’m not shallow. But when I am made to feel “unpretty,” I don’t know how to come back from it. I’m annoyed. I’ve never had low self esteem, I’ve never fished for compliments, but when you allow someone to influence your perspective of who you are physically, it is telling of who you are mentally and emotionally in a way.
I don’t think I can ever date a man that makes me feels “unpretty.” How do you?
How do you look at him everyday without the negative thoughts of what he finds negative about your physicality floating through your head? How do you look at him when you know that who you are spiritually, mentally, and emotionally isn’t enough to make up for his said, character defect in physical form?
Our physical selves are the least important part of who we are. When we think about how spiritually in tune we need to be with God. How emotionally stable we need to be to function. And how mentally sound we need to be in life, physical features are and should be at the bottom of the totem pole.
So how did they get so high?
I don’t think there is anything wrong with having a type of person you’re attracted to. We all have attractions. But I do think it’s wrong to belittle and demean a person because they don’t conform to your ideology of what they should look like. I do think it’s wrong to place physicality above everything else. And I cannot pretend it’s okay.
We make life hard enough for one another without the excess physical requirements that are nothing more than masked shallow insecurities we have about ourselves.
I’m not talking about wanting someone to work out to be healthy. I’m talking about not dating someone because of his or her hair. I’m talking about not dating someone because of his or her skin tone. Since when did the way God created a person not become okay to us? When and how did we get to the point that the beauty of the naturalness of God’s creations is unacceptable?
Man tells me that I’m not pretty enough. Society tells me that I’m not good enough. Family tells me that this needs some work. And life tells me why not just stop now. But God tells me he created me in His image. And when I think about God’s view of me, there really is no comparison.
This body is all good and it’s all mine. And if you don’t like it, if you don’t appreciate it, then you take that up with God. But as a person who is spiritually, mentally, and emotionally fulfilled and fulfilling, it’s your loss either way. Get over yourself.